Like…. I drove your drunk ass home, I put up with all your shenaigans, I offered you a warm bed so you wouldn’t have to drive. I cuddled with you and your girlfriend, and then for some reason that you both chose to whisper about you started yelling (AT 5 IN THE MORNING WHILE MY FAMILY AND ROOMATE ARE SLEEPING) and you grabbed your shit and just left?!? Like… wow. ok. I don’t know what happened but that was ridiculous.
IM SO FUCKING CONFUSED. UGH.
Like did I just lose a friend? Did I fuck something up? You didn’t even say bye… Jesus fucking hell…. I hate this shit and I’m so fucking done with everything falling apart right when I think everything’s going to be ok. I’m done. Seriously my girlfriend is like the only reason I’m holding on to life right now. I think I’m falling hard for her and I could NEVER hurt her like that… But I’m on the edge and my balance is shit.
Good to know FCKH8 is a dismissive sympathizer of that man so I can avoid spending my money on them.
I have sent an email to the contact emails I could find for FCKH8, Tyler@fckh8.com
I encourage you to email them, as well!
I want to let you know that I am disgusted and ashamed to have spent any of my sparse income on FCKH8 products after seeing how the FCKH8 facebook page treated multiple transgender people’s concerns and reasonable distaste for an image using Dan Savage was used. When a valid criticism (along with information and quotes shared by other individuals) was posted, the response from the FCKH8 facebook page was basically to dismiss the concern and harm Savage has done and continues to do to the transgender community. I have attached an image containing screenshots of the initial image, the initial comment questioning the appropriateness of including Savage in a community that says FCKH8 when he says very hateful things, and FCKH8’s response.
I would like you to look at this page and then think about this: why is it ok to tell transgender people to “focus on bigger enemies” and that they have to really stretch to make Savage’s comments transphobic? Why is it ok to alienate and dismiss someone concerned and offended by idolizing a person while ignoring the harmful words and actions just because those things affect a less-prominent part of the community?
It is deeply insulting to me as a transgender person to be told that. Would it be ok if all the references to transgender people were switched to references to gay and lesbian people? It definitely wouldn’t be ok for Savage to say some of these things about the gay community. In fact, we’d probably see joking images about them on the FCKH8 page. In addition to Savage’s blatant cissexism and transphobia, he is very misinformed about the bisexual community, as well. Why exactly is it dismissible to harm these parts of the LGBT community?
As a last word: Thank you to the tireless mods of Your Fave Is Problematic for their work in fighting the tendency in our society to dismiss and cover up any criticism of those idolized.
I got a gem of a response from Luke, the second image. My response:
"That’s great that you were a part of that, but it doesn’t mean that you are immune from ever unintentionally doing something wrong.
The judge of if someone is transphobic are transgender people such as myself and many, many others angry about the attitudes and words he has used.
You are trying to defend your position and you’re disregarding legitimate criticism because it would seem inconvenient. “
What the hell? I like fckh8 even less now
They’ve always been the worst.
Don’t forget he’s also biphobic, sexist, fat-shaming and racist.